How I Felt When I Got Pregnant

Pregnancy
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Becoming pregnant at the age of 26 was not part of my plan. I was not financially and emotionally prepared.
I was hoping to have more time preparing for my future, and for my future children’s future as well. I was praying to God to give me more time and energy, in preparing for my own retirement, so that my children, will not worry about me so that they can enjoy their own lives and will not be burden by my own problems. And for them to have their own time preparing for their future.
I was also praying to God that He will give my boyfriend a lot of patience. Because it will take a long time before I can marry him. Because for me to be able to provide for my own kids, I have to provide first my family’s needs. I want to give them their own house. I want my siblings to have a good education and finish their studies so that they will be able to take care of our parents when the time comes that I will be ready to be with my future husband.
But I guess God has a bigger plan for me than I have for myself. I was 2 weeks delayed of my period. I knew my body well and it felt something different. I took a pregnancy test on February 17, 2017, I found out I was pregnant. I was in denial, “Am I pregnant” was the first question to myself. It was mixed emotions, but nervousness dominates others. I immediately informed my boyfriend about this. We had the same feelings, actually, he was more nervous than I am.
The day after, me and my boyfriend went to the OB-GYN for the first time. I remember showing the doctor three different pregnancy tests, with the same result. And still asking her “Am I pregnant?”. I can’t remember what she told me but I remember that she laughed at me. I had undergone Transvaginal Ultrasound where I heard my baby’s heartbeat for the first time!
It felt like all the worries had gone the moment I heard my baby’s heartbeat. I could just stay there all day listening to the best music I’ve ever heard in my life. Of course, I’m at shock that time. I was still nervous. Not in a bad way, how I am I supposed to handle all these feelings, excitement, nervousness, the anxiety of becoming a mother. But I know God won’t give me this precious gift if He knew I wasn’t fit for this.
My family and friends were in shock, as expected. But I was expecting a different reactions, especially from my parents. Being the breadwinner, I thought they will be mad at me My mother has always been a nagger. But at that time, she’s not. She’s the most comforting person in my life specially that time. In fact, she’s the one who helped me and taught me how to use a pregnancy test! My father, deep inside, I know he’s hurting. I know he’s worried that I might not be able to support them, now that I’m going to have my own baby. But I assured them that I will support them as long as I can. And I know that they will become great and loving grandparents. They are!
So to all the first time moms, who felt the nervousness like me. Who are scared and worried about what might happen. It’s okay to feel that way, it’s normal. But if you feel that way, take a deep breath and remember that there are people who will be by your side throughout your pregnancy and motherhood journey. And most importantly, seek God’s guidance. He knew that you will be the perfect mother for your child

9 Comments

  1. congrats on becoming a mom. i'm sure now you feel even more blessed seeing your sons growing. wendy

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    1. Thank you mumsh! Yes I really feel so blessed because of Nathan. It's hard being a mother but at the same time, it's very fulfilling.

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  2. Congratulations!!! So happy to read your story. Not yet a mom but so excited to be one someday 😊

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  3. Congratulations! A great blessing from God.

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  4. Congratulations for being a new Mom! You got a beautiful blessing! You worry means your cares.

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  5. Congratulations Momsh! I'm sure you'll be a great mom! :)

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  6. Awww. What a beautiful story!! Wishing the best for you and your family!!!

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  7. i wasnt prepared financially as well, but i think i am emotionally. i think God would give us gifts at the right time. at time na natin yun. enjoy mommahood!

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  8. ♥️♥️🙏🏻👍🏻

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